the art of not knowing

diva
3 min readMay 21, 2024

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Have you ever been annoyed by a friend’s post?

Many of us have experienced this at some point. As our social circles expand, so do our followers on social media.

Initially, following a new friend on social media brings a unique thrill. It helps us stay connected, learn about their activities, discover shared passions, understand their social network, get insights into their family life, and even peek into their romantic life.

But, this is only on the surface… It might not reflect reality.

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Who knows more about a person’s life than themselves?

Everyone strives to showcase their best side in both the real world and on social media.

Aesthetic photos, exotic vacations, a comfortable home, a harmonious family, healthy children, uninterrupted education, new vehicles and gadgets — all of it is meticulously packaged to keep the “hidden parts” tightly concealed.

Everything looks flawless, without a speck of imperfection, right?

Often, as spectators, we find ourselves admiring their lives.

We are impressed by their words and actions, filled with kindness towards others.

We fantasize about having a life like theirs one day.

We aspire to have the same beauty and charm that everyone online seems to covet.

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However, not all posts make us feel good.

Some can evoke envy and even frustration.

We start complaining more often because someone else’s life seems better than ours.

We criticize more frequently because their posts clash with our beliefs. Worse, it can lead to slander that spreads negativity.

Even worse, the influence of such posts makes us constantly compare ourselves. We feel like we’re living the worst life.

We overthink, lose hope, and, at its worst, crave instant gratification.

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The bias of social media posts makes us forget that everyone has their own struggles they wouldn’t share.

We forget that everyone in this world has flaws they might never reveal.

Some of them may suffer from depression, trauma, family issues, abuse, divorce, or even childhood trauma.

We consume too many stories filled with wealth and happiness, until we forget that bitter, sad, and failed stories are also integral parts of the journey.

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Recognizing this, it’s essential to remind ourselves that social media is a curated version of reality. Everyone has their ups and downs, their triumphs and tribulations.

While it’s natural to feel envious at times, it’s important to maintain perspective.

We must remember that what we see online is often just the highlight reel of someone’s life, not the full picture.

So, what can we do? We have the power to curate our own social media experience to better serve our mental health.

If certain posts consistently bring negative feelings, we have the right to mute or block those accounts.

It’s not about silencing others, but about protecting our own well-being.

By taking control of what we consume online, we can foster a healthier, more positive digital environment for ourselves.

Remember, you have the right to mute and block — for your peace of mind and mental health.

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